Dealing with a Problem Child in a Formal Setting

Occasionally, we will have to take our child to a formal occasion like a cousin’s wedding or our in-law’s anniversary party.

Usually, this is a recipe for disaster. Kids just weren’t meant to mingle with people, not to mention people they don't know. They’re also not designed to be seated still for more than a few seconds, so don’t expect them to quietly take their dinner while the rest of the visitors have fun. Throwing a tantrum in a party does not automatically make someone a problem child.


Fits during formal occasions are bound to happen, so, just how must we handle a screaming child whenever we need to take them with us to a party?


The first thing to do will be to take the child away from the situation. Bring him in a place he could freely cry and shout. The bathroom’s the perfect spot for this - your car second. As a result, you avoid disturbing the other guests with your child’s crying. Admit it or otherwise, it could be pretty annoying particularly when it’s not your son or daughter that’s throwing a fit in public places.


Often, a tantrum is a case of letting the child get-over the frustration by crying. There’s no sense hushing a mad child. Besides, no person has ever died of crying so it’s actually okay to allow the child cry until he’s tired. Sure, its going to break your heart but you’d just get frustrated making your little one stop crying - believe me.


If you need to attend the occasion during your child’s nap time, get him to take a nap prior to going. Hunger, boredom and being sleepy is among the major causes of tantrums. Anticipate what your son or daughter will be needing as a way to reduce tantrum. If you know that he’ll get thirsty from playing around, bring your own water. If he routinely have a snack at 3:30pm and you will have to attend the party at 3pm, then bring a pack or two of cookies.


Make sure that your child’s as relaxed as possible. A tux isn't really great for a child, but he’d will need to wear one if he's going to be in the wedding’s entourage. Why don’t you bring him an extra cotton polo shirt for after the ceremony? This helps to ensure that he’s comfortable throughout the reception while still looking presentable.


Remember that each child is hardwired to misbehave occasionally. Again, misbehaving does not necessarily make him a problem child. Unless your daughter or son hurts himself and other people, is being destructive or gets mad for no evident cause then there’s no reason to get alarmed.